In class this week we got to "the topic" that everyone was dying to talk about. Sex! I dont know what it is about this topic that gets everyone so riled up! Its just intercourse. It is the way we further the greatness of man. Without it the species of mankind fails. We got into some pretty heated discussions. People were stating their opinions about how many kids is to many and ty entertaining just to sit back and listen to these people practically verbally suffocate eachother. Its a number of kids not life or death. We made the point to discuss the Dugger family from 19 kids and counting and how that seems to be excessive however to them it is a number, and lifestyle, that she had made between herself and the Lord. We talked about how this is what we are councilled to do as members of the church and it really isnt important what people think about our decision. The biggest thing we talked about was the idea of not judging those who dont have children. Just because someone feels they are ready to have kids right out of the temple doesn't give you the right to judge those of us who have been married for time and dont have kids. Some people aren't ready mentally to have children, some aren't able to have children, and some are never able to marry so why is it our human nature to judge those people. Its the same when your in highschool and you aren't in a relationship. people judge you for not thinking your "broken" or "weird" and in the mormon community we are so focused on telling others how to marry, who to marry, and when to marry that the single ladies are sometimes pushed into relationships they aren't even ready to have. If we take the mind set of Christ, we don't judge those around us for not having kids, for not marrying, but we look at them as friends and we don't put them down because we feel they lack something in their life. I learned this week that intamacy isnt an extended family and friend decision. Its a decision made by husband, wife, and the Lord. We put our selves in his capable and all knowing hands. If a baby is in the picture, he can sure as heck override any birth control pill, or have a condom "accidentally" pop. He knows when we are ready to have a child even if we aren't. We must live close to the spirit so when the time is right, we will know. As we do so, lives around us are blesssed as well and we no longer judge those who may be "different" in our comunities.
